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(መዝሙረ ዳዊት 27:14)

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Today's verse

a prayer that has not been answered. HELP.

Hello brothers and sisters, I have a prayer that I have been sending for the past 18 years. It is about someone I love. I met this person at the lowest time of my life and he was able to mend my broken heart. He basically was the person I leaned on at the time that I lost my parents and was being raped by a family member. So, he means the world to me. I loved him then and I love him now. but, this brother had a girlfriend back then. So, our relationship stayed brotherly/ sisterly. I have waited for him to make a decision for almost 10 years and he didnt so I moved on or I think I did. I got married 10 years ago and I am a mother now. but, I cant shake him off my mind!!! I wake up and I go to bed thinking about him; everyday!!! I love my husband, dont get me wrong. But, I believe he is the love of my life! how do I know? I have been trying to contact with him with everything possible; just to hear him talk; just to see his text. He does not answer. He thinks he failed me and he wants to stay out of my life. I cant imagine living without him in my life somehow, someway. I sometimes confuse his love with lust. But, most of the time he is someone I love purely and genuinely. I have been asking the Lord to make him call me so we can continue our friendship or to make me forget about him. I have been crying and pleaing. I have not heard back from the Lord. I dont know what to do anymore. My heart aces. I love him and I dont know what to do anymore. Please help!!!
Blessings.
Oct 24, 2013 መንፈሳዊ ስም-አልባ የተጠየቀ

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ok, sister this seems to me a classical case of being in an inappropriate love. If you want to really get a solution then you need to call your problem as it is. Clearly you are in an inappropriate love with somebody who is not your husband and you even want God to help you so that your inappropriate love may grow and you may end up in inappropriate sexual relationship by having more contacts with your inappropriate lover. This prayer of course will not be answered because God will never help us so that we feed our fleshly lusts. You should thank God that he is keeping you away from your inappropriate lover otherwise you definitely will end up in an inappropriate sexual relationship, no doubt about it.

So don't make any lame excuses and fool yourself. Just call a spade a spade. You are in love with a guy who is not your husband and that IS SIN. The only solution the bible gives us to inappropriate love and lust is to FLEE and ran away from that as much as we can, not to pray so that we may have more contacts and feed our lust.
Quote:
2ኛ ጢሞቴዎስ/2 Timothy 2:22
Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

ዘፍጥረት/Genesis 39:11-12
But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside, that she caught him by his garment, saying, "Lie with me." But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside.

I want to be frank with you. Don't deceive yourself by saying it is not lust it is pure love etc. NO, you are about committing adultery and breaking your marriage. Wake up! And don't feel you need to pay your inappropriate lover back. It is over and get over it. Your lover got over it and made a decision long time ago. He doesn't love you. You should swallow this bitter pill. He is not your perfect mate. You are just deceiving yourself and living in fantasy world. Wake up! Don't romanticize and idealize the past contacts you had with your inappropriate lover.

So, hear my advise if you have still ears to hear - FLEE as far as you can from him. No phone, email, social media or any other contacts! Avoid any other contacts with him! Try to forget him and MAKE YOURSELF BUSY with other useful things like reading books or taking up a job etc..

Please click here to read also the advise given to a sister that had similar problems like you.


Thank you!
Oct 24, 2013 ስም-አልባ የተመለሰ
Oct 24, 2013 ታርሟል
Ouch!!! That hurts!!! Reality always does hurt. Thank you for being honest with me. Trust me when I say this, I DO WANT TO FORGET ABOUT HIM!!! I DO realize that this is not going anywhere. Even if, nothing will happen between us, it still is painful to love someone this much!!! What I don't know is, how I DO it. I have two jobs, a hobby that keeps me all night, I AM responsible for a family of five, very involved in my church, ... What I AM trying to say is, this isn't something that I dwell on because I have spare time. No. It is the other way around. When I realized the Lord isn't granting me my wish, I started questioning my intention. One thing I felt is, the Lord wants me to use this love to a good use. I need to pray for this brother's salvation. I have been dedicating prayers for this topic. I AM asking the Lord to help me flee. Or if I have to stay in, for Him to use this love for a good use. I am but human and I need Devine help to overcome this. Because I tried to do it myself and fail so measurably. Either to get contact with my friend or to forget about him: I failed on both!!!thank you dear brother/sister for your advice and I ask you to lift me up with prayers.
Blessings.
Sister thanks for your openness and honesty too. But I have to continue with the truth of bitter pill for some medicine is bitter but heals. Now, just a brotherly advise - don't even think to pray for this brother for whatever reasons not even for his salvation. Are you listening me. Don't do it! Save yourself from this temptation first before you try to save somebody else. It is all a classic self-delusion which gives you a moral reason to dwell thinking on him. Forget it! God will save him even without your prayers. Stop it. Don't think about him, don't pray for him if you want to overcome this temptation. Any "good" reason to just dwell thinking about him must be abandoned. The very nature of temptation is, it will be ONLY over either when you overcome it or it overcomes you. But thanks to God, God let us only be tempted with a temptation that we can overcome. We just need to be ጨካኝ to overcome it. No መልመጥመጥ!
thank you again! I will try to be chekagne... and please keep me in your prayers... God only knows how hard this is on my soul. If there is a switch in my brain that can turn off and make me forget about him, I would have reached and shut that thing off. sadly, it isn't as easy as that... but, I know in His name I am more than able to concur this too... pray, pray, pray for me. as I type now, my heart cries. I feel like I am about to amputate my right arm... it is that painful. Oh Lord, please help me do your will???
thank you again. this means a lot to my soul.
blessings.
“እግዚአብሔር አምላኩ የሚሆንለት ሕዝብ ምስጉን ነው፥ እርሱ ለርስቱ የመረጠው ሕዝብ።“
(መዝሙረ ዳዊት 33:12)

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Today's proverb

የኒውስ ሌተር ምዝገባ
የእርስዎ ስም ኢሜል አድራሻዎ ኢሜል አድራሻዎ (በድጋሚ)
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